Have you ever been coached?
"A great coach tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear"~S. Kaleo
I remember bringing a situation to a coach thinking that I would completely stump her. I believed that my problem was so intense that she would have trouble finding a path for me to feel better. We were in line at Starbucks in Northern California, and I was giving her the facts of the situation and how it all made me feel so crappy. Within 2 minutes she revealed to me that what I thought was causing my upset was not the situation but rather my thoughts about it. I kept repeating how awful the situation was, and she just patiently kept nodding and telling me it was awful because I thought it was awful. My brain seized. My ego was gripping on for dear life wanting to prove my beliefs about the situation true. Then, in an instant, I got it. The proverbial light bulb went off. The aha moment that was so profound, I still think about it 4 years later.
In that 2- minute casual session, my coach helped me reclaimmy power. She showed me how I was giving away all my power to an externalcircumstance, and how I would always be victim to it if I continued to believethat IT was causing my pain and struggle. She taught me that if I wanted to beemotionally strong I had to commit to taking responsibility for ALL of myfeelings. Why? Because I was the one creating all of my feelings. In an instant,the old beliefs fell away, and I felt lighter. I felt more in control and somany things in my life changed for the better. Responsibility means our abilityto respond to any situation. We get to decide how we want to think, feel, andact in any given situation - even the ones that we believe are so challengingthat they have to cause us stress and upset.
Coaching can change you and help you get unstuck
After that 2- minute coaching session, I became obsessedwith learning all of the coaching tools that I could. I volunteered to becoached many times and have always hired my own 1:1 coach to help gainperspective and shift thinking patterns that I cannot see while inside my ownbrain that are holding me back.
I have coached hundreds of students and clients and seen somany light bulbs go off in short periods of time. To see this transformation in my clients hasbeen so exciting and rewarding.
I want to point out that a coach is very different from a friend or family member.
Your friends and family will likely try to agree with you tomake you feel better. A coach will remain completely neutral, hold the spacefor you to fight for you way of thinking, then show you exactly where you aregiving up control and how to reclaim it.
Your friends and family will try to make it feel easy andnot push you to look at anything you don’t want to. A good coach gets you uncomfortablein order to teach you how to feel that discomfort without running away.
Your coach will teach you how your mind created the problemby creating a story/ a belief that made it so.
Your coach will help you reclaim your power by giving itback to you like mine did in line at Starbucks. For me, this changedeverything.
Mere advice from friends and family won’t change you.
Coaching will.
If you want to reclaim your power, schedule your very ownsacred hour of coaching, it can change your life.